tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8914552885749415430.post4122983954505536484..comments2023-09-25T04:39:06.306-07:00Comments on Whatever: Helicopter ParentingKatyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03043976774509912799noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8914552885749415430.post-10238567624201712222008-11-20T13:55:00.000-08:002008-11-20T13:55:00.000-08:00When you wrote about letting your kids to to the c...When you wrote about letting your kids to to the convenience store after school it reminded me of how I stopped at the 7-Eleven WITH YOU one day after school in elementary school and got grounded for the rest of the week. My mom was one of those ones who didn't let her kids go to "the sev", but otherwise she let us ride our bikes all over the neighborhood.<BR/><BR/>There's my random and not-particularly-relevant comment for the afternoon.Kevin Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14728825547481976556noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8914552885749415430.post-89482893231930696632008-11-13T11:18:00.000-08:002008-11-13T11:18:00.000-08:00I'm overprotective because mine are young, and blo...I'm overprotective because mine are young, and blonde, and blue eyed girls. Next year I will let my (she will be) nine carry a key to school to let her in the house. She's very responsible already. I've started to let them play outside in the yard without me in a camping chair watching them like a hawk. I now open my front curtains and watch them like a hawk from the couch lol.<BR/><BR/>It's hard letting go. I applaud your parenting and strive for that kind of independence for my kids.Laurel (without Hardy)https://www.blogger.com/profile/11498317150467004277noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8914552885749415430.post-68401539515587023042008-11-09T16:14:00.000-08:002008-11-09T16:14:00.000-08:00Oh mah holy hell...Shortman stayed alone for the f...Oh mah holy hell...Shortman stayed alone for the first time, overnight, when he was 14. He ended up spending a bunch of time at the next door neighbors (their son was his best friend) - and he knew (as did they) how to reach us at any time. <BR/><BR/>His biggest problem was that he stayed awake ALL night. Which taught him that sleep = a good thing.<BR/><BR/>We left him and the 24 year old (who hardly ever sleeps at home) alone for two nights this year. He was 16. <BR/><BR/>I want him to be an adult. He is proving himself every day.TSintheChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01921083603967329926noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8914552885749415430.post-28854213567852109062008-11-07T07:58:00.000-08:002008-11-07T07:58:00.000-08:00Sorry, I was too lazy to read that whole other art...Sorry, I was too lazy to read that whole other article and your whole post too . . . maybe I should come back tomorrow. I'm sort of in PMS pissed off mode today . . . it makes my attention span VERY short. <BR/><BR/>Oh, and I'm in in-between parent. I do try to scare the bejesus out of Baby Boy on certain things that I really don't want him to have to experience, but on the other hand. . . I trust him (for the most part, but not with unfiltered internet usage - more on that another time, LOL) and I allow him the freedom to be who he needs to be and go where he needs to go. <BR/><BR/>A lot of my homeschooling Mom friends who have older children refuse to let their kids get driver's permits or licenses . . . it frustrates me to no end. <BR/><BR/>WHY stifle a child? <BR/><BR/>WHY? <BR/><BR/>It's so absurd. Baby Boy's been studying for his test, and all I can do is give him the tools he needs to be a defensive and considerate driver. The rest is up to him. <BR/><BR/>Oh, shoot. I'm rambling on your blog. <BR/><BR/>I need to take a Midol and go ramble on my own blog. <BR/><BR/>Later.MOM #1https://www.blogger.com/profile/11581360715920982011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8914552885749415430.post-22993464508870919452008-11-07T07:18:00.000-08:002008-11-07T07:18:00.000-08:00Shelly - forget extended visit, he's moving in wit...Shelly - forget extended visit, he's moving in with you!!<BR/><BR/>Christy - I think my whole post is out the window if you are a parent who did experience the "dark side" of this whole subject. I think it would be very hard not to be super protective of your kids in that situation! We had friends whose four year old drowned in a canoeing accident seven years ago and my children haven't been on or near a river since then. They can handle it but I CAN'T. So I do think that personal experience affects us hugely on this issue!!<BR/><BR/>Kate - Your cat is never going to be able to grow up and go to college and be a productive member of society. BAD kitty mommy! ;-)Katyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03043976774509912799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8914552885749415430.post-2598906091349893792008-11-07T06:47:00.000-08:002008-11-07T06:47:00.000-08:00My parents kept a close watch on us and we were no...My parents kept a close watch on us and we were not allowed to do alot of things that other kids could - as a result I over did it when I got to be an adult. Like you said I went "apeshit".<BR/><BR/>Not good.<BR/><BR/>I am not a parent. But if I were, I would hope I wouldn't repeat my parents mistake.<BR/><BR/>I do however have a cat that's very spoiled - so I'm guessing if I had kids I'd go to the extreme with the spoiling. LOL!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8914552885749415430.post-54286667304538541092008-11-07T06:36:00.000-08:002008-11-07T06:36:00.000-08:00This is an awesome post! I read the one you linked...This is an awesome post! I read the one you linked to also...I have to admit, I struggle with this--A LOT!<BR/><BR/>The way that I grew up was less than ideal (let's say) and I was alone a lot from a very young age and had way too much responsibility on my shoulders than I should've been expected to handle. Now, I obviously didn't die, and I like to think I'm a pretty decent human being, but a lot of bad things happened to me, so I feel like I've experienced the darker side of what CAN happen. And when you combine that with all of the shit you hear about these days, it makes for some pretty huge fears.<BR/><BR/>I have been told that I'm too controlling (I know, shocker, right?) and I sincerely do work on it--sometimes I'm better than others. I don't want my kids to completely rebel or not have any skills to accomplish anything on their own, so there have been times that I've had to reevaluate some of my 'policies' and change direction a little bit.<BR/><BR/>My kids are 8 & 11, so some of the scenarios you've talked about haven't been an issue yet. I let them play outside and ride their bikes on our street; I have let my 11 y/o stay home by herself for a couple of hours and I've allowed her to stay w/the 8 y/o for up to an hour. My 11 y/o rides in the front seat a lot of the time because she's almost as tall as me. <BR/><BR/>I won't talk to other kids for them to make friends (I might have when they were like 2!) and for the most part, if they have issues with other kids at school, I make them figure it out. As far as allowing them to walk to other stores alone or be dropped off at the movies, I'll just have to see what feels right--but I think about it a lot. It's hard to imagine that I'll feel comfortable with those things any time soon, but I guess a lot of it will depend on the situation and the other kids involved.<BR/><BR/>You've made me think of all of the places I am over protective and how I can change that--so that's good. I've certainly made plenty of mistakes, I can tell you that!<BR/><BR/>~ChristyUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00979148726214985797noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8914552885749415430.post-68131223482373688022008-11-07T06:24:00.000-08:002008-11-07T06:24:00.000-08:00Well, since I have never raised any kids (other th...Well, since I have never raised any kids (other than every other weekend) I can't answer those questions but I sure missed the memo about Thing 1 coming for an "extended visit"! :)<BR/>Actually, a lot of what you said makes sense. When I was a kid I babysat other kids at an early age (8 or so) and we played outside for hours. When I moved in with my dad and stepmom things got a little stricter and let me just say you are absolutely right about going APESHIT when you move out of the house (which I did 3 weeks after graduating from high school and NEVER moved back). <BR/>Good post!Shelly...https://www.blogger.com/profile/04947424691739177406noreply@blogger.com